Friday, March 21, 2008

Stop the Bullshit

I'm sitting home, watching the snow fall...AGAIN, and relaxing by a warm fire in the fireplace, on a day off from nursing (the BEST job in the world BTW), reading blogs. Through my WWW exploration today I found the You Tube clip below of Anne Hathaway excepting and award from the Human Rights Campaign for her support of the LGBT community. It moved me so much because I have a very dear and best friend, Meg, who is a lesbian. She is in a loving relationship with a cute little potter. I used to always talk about planning their vegan hippie mountain top wedding..and say when you get married this and when you get married that, until one day Meg said, "Kristin, we CAN'T get married". And I just rambled on, "Oh, that whole no gay marriage thing? That's so stupid, don't listen to them. You can get married, it's just a piece of paper. Don't be silly". After saying that I looked up and saw her face...and then realized the seriousness of what she had said...she can not, BY LAW, marry the one person in this world who she would give anything to marry. She is not allowed to do that. It's so easy for me to say it's just a piece of paper, because I am, in the eyes of our government, more civilized in my heterosexual relationship than she is. Over the years she has told me how people will look at her and her girlfriend when they hold hands in public...how she has been treated as a gay woman. It makes me SICK to think of some asshole passing judgment on her...thinking she is less of a human being than they are. I could go on and on...

I have a Lesbian Best Friend. She is kind, loving, hyper-intelligent, in love, revolutionary, inspirational, strong, hysterical, and amazing. She deserves the same amount of respect that you do. Treat her as you would want to be treated. Embrace her as a fellow human being.
Let's stop the bullshit.

5 comments:

Jennifer said...

well said.

paintrly1 said...

Well done! I have many gay friends, and I forget that I do live in a world where they are made to feel unworthy and unfairly treated. Yes, it pisses me off, this ignorance. My friends are the smartest, most successful, loving, fun people I know, and deserve everything I take for granted, like marriage and children.
Anne Hathaway's speach made me cry. I am passing it on to all my friends.

Thank you for the poem, too! And more thanks for adding me to your links!

Kristin C. said...

Hey Joy! Glad to see your back from your travels...I look forward to hearing about your trip. I'm glad I could share these two blips of beauty with you this week...and your welcome for adding you to my links...I love reading your blog, I hope others will too!

Maggie (Sam's friend) said...

Great post! I completely agree!

It's funny. The other day, my hubby and I were talking about different scenarios that may come up with our twins as they get older. I said to him, "what would you do if Liam came home one day and told us he was gay?" (no biggie to me of course) to which he responded, "I would first give him a big hug, tell him I appreciate how hard it must have been to say that to us and tell him that I loved him and that I was jealous of him because he would be a better dresser than I am." Gotta love that hubby of mine! Of all the stereotypes to have, I guess that's not the worst, right?

Kate said...

Both this post and this clip brought tears to my eyes. Beautiful.